By Wayne Hoover
The most important thing is that you feel good.
Yet a lot of people have a problem with this statement. In this article I want to persuade you that feeling good is actually the most important thing you can do in your life- by debunking some common reasons why most people say you shouldn’t feel good- including exercise and necessary evil type arguments- and I give some reasons people be stuck in the belief that you have to go through some sort of bad feelings in order to get what you want like school and social pressure. At the end of this post I explain some ways you can start feeling good now.
Feeling good is the most important thing that you can do. Why? Because when you feel good you start to attract other feeling good things to you. If you are not feeling good with what you are doing- then you are going to attract to you more of those things that don’t feel good to do. Like attracts like.
But some people might say “But I have to do this thing I don’t like to do right now- so that I can pay my rent.” Or other similar things. And if you say it is so- then it is so for you. You create your reality- over and over again we create our reality each day with each choice. This type of thinking that you need to do something you don’t like in order to achieve your goals- or to survive even- is pretty common in our culture- a lot of people subscribe to this belief- and therefor its hard to go against.
When we look around and see that most people are doing what they don’t like to get to some level of survival- we automatically think that this is the way it simply is. This type of thinking is systematic and has its roots in the education system most people go through. Most kids don’t want to go to school- but are told that they have to and that they are given this false hope that by doing something they don’t like (like homework) they will get something good out of it.
Well let me tell you something Nothing good has ever come from doing something you don’t like. Nothing.
What about exercise? Some people might argue that exercise is just something that you have to bear through in order to get what you want. To this there are a couple responses; first- ask most people who have some sort of exercise routine- they like to exercise it feels good to them. Secondly- if you don’t feel good while exercising you probably are not going to reach your goals- whatever they are. Sure it might hurt a little- it might sting a little- it might push you a little when you are exercising and these actions might not feel “good” in the body at the time- but in a lot of ways it does actually feel good to exercise. It might not feel “good” in the normal way we think of feeling good- as in some blissful relaxed equilibrium of the body- but it does feel good mentally- emotionally and in other ways- and it sure feels good after- really good.
The most successful people don’t subscribe to the belief that you have to do something you don’t like in order to do what you do like. In fact the most successful people and tell everyone (again and again) that to be successful you have to do what you do like- you have to do what feels good. The most important thing to achieving your goals is feeling good. The hard truth is that you are not going to do anything worthwhile if you are not enjoying what you are doing. I know this might be hard to accept now- especially if you have some job that you spend most of your time doing something you don’t want to do- but its true- you know its true.
So then- we must make it our top priority to do what makes us feel good. It must be our number one top priority.
But someone might argue that that sounds pretty hedonistic- maybe even animalistic. If we all just went around doing what made us feel good we would be like animals- just fucking all day- or just doing drugs all the time. Well first- what is wrong with fucking all day? And secondly doing drugs doesn’t actually feel good in the long term. The argument against doing what feels good- because if you did you would just do drugs all day- is really the same type of argument as the exercise argument except the other side. Yes doing drugs might feel good in the moment- but it doesn’t feel good in the long term- not at all. Exercise might not feel good in the short term- but it does feel good in the long term. The high from drugs don’t last long- then you need more- and more. Even given the best circumstances- lets say you are rich and can afford all the drugs you want- eventually your body will begin to shutdown- our bodies just can’t handle large amounts of drugs for long amounts of time. We can’t stay permanently high with the use of drugs. We always have to come down- always. So a lot of drug users are unhappy because they have to keep getting high in order to feel good- yet most of the time they are not high- so most of the time they don’t feel good. A drug users life is not a happy life- a drug user doesn’t feel good most of the time. Don’t take my word for it- look at one of them for yourself.
So the key is to do what makes us feel good for extended periods. The most important thing is that we feel good- all of the time.
OK- some people might be convinced that feeling good is the most important thing yet what does this mean practically? How does this affect my life- and how can I feel good most of the time?
Practical Ways to Start Feeling Good
Start slow and start with awareness. Just being aware of those things that make you feel good is a great first step. Also being aware of those things that you do that make you feel bad is a good first step too. Be aware of your feelings- what makes you feel good- what makes you feel bad. You don’t even have to change anything just notice them- write them down. This is the most important thing you can do to start feeling good; be aware of your feelings. The next step is natural- when you are aware of those things that make you feel good do more of them when you are aware of those things that you make you feel bad do less of them. To have the best chances for success the slower the better– but also know that the key to change is perseverance.
Slow steady change is the key to success.
So go forth and start to become aware of your feelings- and after awhile start to do more of those things that make you feel good and less of those things that make you feel bad. You are destined to win.
In love- -Wayne
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